How a weekend trip became an exercise in self-protection

It's been a few days since our last article and I wanted to share a bit as to why that is. For the past five days my family and I were spending time with some out of town friends, a fellow pastor and his wife.

It truly was time well spent. These friends opened their lives to us. They shared their lake house with us, packed the refrigerator and cabinets with food, and basically took care of us for the time we were there. 

In addition to this we had the chance to relax, just the six of us. We spend time together by a lake, unwinding and not concerning ourselves with anything other than enjoying one another. 

We also spent time with the members of his congregation, both on Sunday as well as during the other days. They, too, opened their lives to us, and we found ourselves extending our stay by a day just to enjoy their hospitality even more.

Tuesday morning we took our time cleaning the house, doing laundry to make sure the sheets and towels were clean and folded, then we said our good-byes and got back to our house. After a long drive, including a relatively stress-free trip through a major city during rush hour, we got home late Tuesday night. We put the kids to bed, settled ourselves in, and got some sleep.

Why did I title this article as I did? What could a long weekend away from home have to do with the subject of self-protection? I suspect that if you've read my other articles then you could put two and two together, so to speak. But if you're new to the website and haven't read the other articles then I'll explain.

I am a Self-Protection Mentor. I come alongside motivated individuals and small groups. I teach martial culture and tactics, namely the Contemporary Jeet Kune Do (Bruce Lee's art/concepts) and Filipino Martial Arts. 

But I do more than that, as a mentor. You see, I'm firmly convinced that we do not think correctly, and as a result, we don't act correctly. We assume things, we reject other things, and both that which we assume and that which we reject might be either correct or incorrect, depending on circumstances and context.

What I mean to say is that many times our actions are governed by sloppy thinking or poor reasoning. This faulty logic not only leads to limiting beliefs and thoughts. Such is the case here because as my other articles note, self-protection has a much broader definition. Self-protection begins with how we think about self-protection.

Now, back to my long weekend trip. Why is that self-protection? During the course of the weekend my wife and I discussed how restful and peaceful our time was. Both of us, in our own words, recognized that we needed the time away.

We'd been dealing with several issues that have taken up much of our mental and emotional energy. We found that we were far more worn out than we'd realized and actually needed the time away from our home, not so much because the house had some sort of physical energy, but because we'd fallen into a rut in our thinking as well as our routine.

The trip away served as a physical and mental recharging time. We came back home relaxed and prepared to handle the issues we still had in new and different ways. 

This is the reason our trip was self-protection. By getting some rest we were caring for our family. By talking with people who cared for us, who shared their lives with us, and who had a little more experience with this kind of thing than we did, we were able to care for ourselves and not feel like the issues we faced were waves crashing over us.

Self-protection is more than punching and kicking. It could be that, but it is also weighing your options, appreciating and accepting someone's help and hospitality, and availing yourself of resources that can put you in position to change your thinking or actions.

You can do this in your own life, too, even if you don't have a lake house to visit. Start down the road of self-protection by intentionally engaging in some self-examination. As you think about your actions in light of the things you're dealing with begin to question not only your actions but your thoughts that led to the actions. 

Once you've done that ask yourself how you might be able to take some "self-protection time" to regroup and restructure your thinking and actions. You just might find that you've got more work on your plate than you realized. If so, I invite you to consider our mentoring program; the study of logic is one of the things we use to promote self-protection. 

When you think correctly about a thing you are more likely to act consistently with your thoughts.

Until next time,


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