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The Most Dangerous Lesson Many Never Learn

The last lesson I want to share is one of the more powerful ones. If people can't, won't, or don't learn how to deal with the subject of this lesson it can have disastrous and possibly fatal consequences. I'm talking about the role ego plays in the martial life. Probably the most important issue I face as a teacher is the temptation to let ego control action either on my end or on my mentee's end. Simply put, the power inherent in the mentor/mentee relationship can be addictive if we're not constantly aware of our goals for our mentees as well as ourselves. When I was in the Navy, and even in the years beyond that I was someone who was led by...

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Lessons Learned from the Martial Subculture

In my previous posts I've laid out some of my story and how I came to think as I do about self-protection mentorship. I realized that I wanted be a bridge between where potential mentees are and where I believe they’ll be better off going, and that where I think the end result will be is to their benefit.</p> This might come as a shock to some, as it once was to me, but not everyone wants to be a card-carrying member of the martial arts culture. This is not to say that they don’t want and deserve quality training, nor does it mean that they are not committed to their growth. But it does mean that they might prioritize these things differently than I do,...

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The Mentoring Mindset of George Lacy and Lacy Products and Services

The other day I told you a story about how I was a well-intended but slightly self-absorbed martial arts teacher. I wanted to let you know more about what I've come to understand over the past twenty years of teaching and training. As I said then I want to share my teaching philosophy here. I began to ask myself how I could relate to people as possible students in helpful ways even though they might not be as passionate about training as I am? Generally there are some helpful, simple things I consider when I think about the “potential mentee,” which is my definition of someone who might not want to immerse themselves in the subculture of mixed martial arts, five...

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The Man Behind the Curtain of Lacy Products and Services

Back in my twenties I had a student who was in his mid-40s. He came to classes sporadically, trained hard, but didn’t seem to be nearly as driven as I thought he ought to be. After all, this was great training I was offering, why didn’t he just show up more often? So one day I asked him why he only showed up from time to time. His answer confused me. “Well, my family’s got other things going on, and I like doing those things with them.” It was a simple statement with zero malice or defensiveness. Now, since I’m now in my mid-40s as I write this, having lived outside of the martial arts world for the past decade or...

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